DEAR ANNIE: I felt something was wrong with my best friend for a while. She was my maid of honor but didn’t have a shower for me. She also showed up at the wedding venue fully dressed and made up, when we were getting ready together.

Weeks later I said it was hurtful that no one had a shower for me. I asked her how she would feel if everyone ignored her upcoming 50th birthday, and she said she wanted to forget she was turning 50. But on the day she had a party at a restaurant, posted pictures on Facebook and declared her “BFF ” held the party.

Cut to that summer. When her daughter (who I’ve known since she was 7) got married, she asked my husband and I if we would film the wedding, and we readily agreed. Weeks passed and we heard nothing. Then she posted the wedding photos on Facebook.

I was hurt and surprised. I expressed this and she said her daughter found a college friend to do it for free. I told her I thought this was our gift to her daughter as no one ever mentioned payment nor did we expect one. I also said I was hurt that we weren’t invited and she said, “You weren’t invited because you were never invited.”

I can’t remember the last time we saw each other, even though she lives 15 minutes away. She texts me about once or twice a month.

I want to say something, but it feels like a waste of time.

Should I just stop texting or tell her she’s off the phone and doesn’t need to put up with this show? – Hurt and unsure

DEAR HURT: Of course you are hurt; a friend who once meant a lot to you now distances himself without so much as an explanation. If you’re hoping for closure, message her and explain that you’ve noticed the changes in your relationship and it seems like she no longer values ​​having you in her inner circle. But if it feels like more effort than it’s worth, stepping back and letting the friendship fade naturally is a perfectly healthy option.

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